I have lost count of the
number of times Facebook is referred to in divorce petitions or social media
posts are stored and relied upon during Children Act and financial remedy
proceedings. Over sharing on social
media may be your downfall when it comes to family law cases as photographs and
posts can be held on to, by your ex, as a permanent reminder of historical
misdemeanours. The courts have
previously been presented with copy text messages and emails as evidence of
conduct and are now used to seeing a screengrab of an offensive photograph or
comment on social media and will accept this as evidence, if pertinent to your
case.
Most importantly, it is
an offence to identify children who are subject to court proceedings (unless
specific authority has been obtained from the court) and therefore, you must
not publish details of your case online, no matter how upset or angry you may
feel about the process or the outcome.
Consider this: you emphatically deny to your spouse that you have bought a property or car or been on an
expensive holiday, whilst boasting about your spending (plus
a photo for good measure with you looking suitably proud) on social media. Your spouse is bound to rely upon that within
negotiations about division of matrimonial assets, at the very least to show
that you have been economic with the truth!
Uploading photographs and
sharing details of frivolous expenditure will not help you when you pursue an
argument concerning lack of resources and will instead assist your aggrieved
spouse.
Criticising your
ex-partner online creates a permanent record which could later be referred to
as evidence of poor parenting, as could photographs or updates about drinking
to excess/drunken exploits or recreational drug use.
Family breakdown is an
extremely upsetting and stressful time and an outlet will be needed but be
warned that such outlet should be in private.
Consider not only the legal consequences which could be far ranging but
also the impact upon your children who may one day see the record of the public
fall-out between their parents.
Janet Strong, Associate Solicitor in our Wills and Estate team
When someone dies, it is sometimes necessary to apply for a Grant of Representation to deal with their estate. There are different types of Grant: executors named in a Will can apply for a “Grant of Probate”; if there is a Will but none of the executors can apply, others (usually the main beneficiaries) can apply for a “Grant of Letters of Administration With Will Annexed”; and if there is no Will, an application can be made for a “Grant of Letters of Administration”.
There have been two significant practical concerns this year relating to these applications. Firstly, a substantial increase in most fees was due to come into force in Spring 2019; and secondly, since Spring, there have been substantial delays in the processing of applications. The two problems are not entirely unrelated: there was a substantial increase in the volume of applications just before the original deadline for the fee change. Other contributing factors to the delay appear to have been a change in the format of the Grants coupled with a new computer system.
Under the government’s proposals, probate fees would have
risen from the current fixed fee of £215 – or £155 with a solicitor – to a
sliding scale of up to £6,000 depending on the size of the estate. However, it
has been confirmed that the Government Minister has decided allow the probate
fees increase to lapse.
As to the delays, it has recently been taking months rather than weeks to receive a Grant. The Law Society recently met with HM Courts and Tribunals Service and were told that a 20% increase in resources has been brought in to deal with the increase of applications and putting paper applications onto the new system, which they were told HMCTS is now up to date with. The challenge now sits at the quality assurance and final issue of grant stage.
HMCTS say they have processed 98,000 grants since April this
year and have a backlog of applications from March. These need to be dealt with
by people who have the appropriate skill/experience. They say they have brought
in an additional legal advisers and believe this should help with getting
through the backlogs.
It is therefore to be hoped that an end may at last be in
sight to the present delays.
If you would like any help or advice regarding Grants of
Representation, our Wills and Estates team would be happy to help.
Michelle Bowyer, Associate Solicitor in the family team
Bevirs Law would like to congratulate Michelle Bowyer on her promotion to Associate Solicitor, following her successful track record in advising clients with family law issues including divorce, financial arrangements arising from divorce, and child arrangements for both parents and extended family members. She also deals with preparation of cohabitation and separation agreements as well as pre-nuptial agreements.
Michelle
is an experienced
family lawyer, practising since 1996 and has been based in our Swindon office
since February 2014.
Michelle said: “I was thrilled to be offered an Associate
position this year. I will continue to support Stuart McNeil and
the rest of the fantastic family team I work with. I practice with a
passion for the law and with a drive to help my clients work through some of
the most challenging times they face. To be made an Associate of such a
lovely firm is validation of my efforts in both practicing law and in my care
of clients and I am grateful to the Partnership for this opportunity”.
Stuart McNeil, Partner
and Head of the Family Team, said: “Huge congratulations to Michelle on her
well deserved promotion. Michelle is a key member of the family team who has
proved time and again to be an extremely valuable asset to the firm as well as
being well thought of by her clients”.
The
only bad thing about the row is that I did not see England put 8 tries on
Ireland nor see the Ben Stokes innings.
There
were three themes that added to the already challenging task of rowing roughly
40 miles a day, almost caused us to fail.
The first is that, for once, the August Bank Holiday was a glorious
weekend of blue skies and unremitting sun.
Temperatures rose into the 30s which itself made the effort of rowing
difficult. Added to that, the sun
brought out a variety of other users to the Thames: there were the swimmers, some serious and some
just swimming from the riverbank; there were the canoeists and paddlers and, of
course, river cruisers of all shapes and sizes and a couple drifting in the middle of the Thames on a
unicorn more interested in their bodies than where
they were on the Thames. That activity
would have slowed us but the volume of cruisers wishing, like us, to go through
the locks meant that there was continuing and growing delay. Finally, the river Thames is not designed for
crew changes of row boats and that coupled to the instability of the boat as we
clambered in and out of it or entered or left locks meant that such times were
fraught and slow . Despite that the boat
was frequently tipping dangerously towards capsizing. All in all, the estimated time of arrival at
the end of each day just kept on being pushed further and further back.
Because
of the delays we all spent longer in the boat than was planned. The killer stints were where one rowed then coxed and then rowed
again. This meant that one was in the
boat continuously for five to six hours. Not only was that tiring but also painful on
the backside. This lead one member of
the team, Sowande, to exclaim as he got into Lyn’s car “ah, just let me sit in
your car – the seats are so soft”.
Bear
all that in mind as I recount the highlights or
lowlights of the row.
On
Saturday the 24th August the two rowing crews assembled at Lechlade Marina
at about 7.00am. The two teams were the
younger members ‘The Young Blades’ and the more, shall we say, mature members ‘The
Gentlemen’. First there were the photos, the crew, the crew and Stuart McNeil
from Bevirs Law, our sponsors, representatives from The Lions, who made a very
generous donation, and the Mayor. Once
that was done, the boat was launched and The Young Blades plus the Cox, me
embarked. Cheers of encouragement from the supporters and we were off – straight
into the side of the narrow outlet to the Thames.
The
Thames at Lechlade is, for several miles, very pretty but is also narrow and
very windy. Not ideal for a boat which
is designed to go in a straight line.
That, coupled with the ineptitude of the Cox, me, and the fact that we occasionally
forgot the difference between stroke side and bow side, meant that we formed a
close relationship with the overhanging trees and growing reeds. Progress was slow but we comforted ourselves with
the thought that when the Thames widened we would make up time. Good theory but bad practice because the weather
got hotter and filled with other users.
We
arrived at our first night stop at Abingdon about an hour and a half late. We supped at the local Beefeater, where the
service was friendly but the food – ‘ho-hum’. The Young Blades were to take the first stint
and, taking into account, the previous day’s experience, intended on an early
start.
Most
of The Gentlemen were not needed and were given dispensation from leaving home between
4:30am and 5:00am. We needed as long as
possible to recover because the second day was the longest to row. The Gentlemen gathered at Clifton Lock at about
8 a.m. having walked past moored boats from which the smell of frying bacon
gently wafted making the taste buds tingle.
The early start had not quite happened.
The changeover was effected, but as the day got hotter, the locks fuller
and the changeovers undertaken with increasing care, we slipped further and
further behind the schedule. The planned
mooring was at the Marlow Rowing Club. As
the evening sun began to set, and darkness grew, we were still optimistic that
we would reach our destination. Unfortunately,
we had not taken into account the penultimate lock of the day. Lock keepers work 9 to 6. By the time we got to the penultimate lock 6
o’clock was well past. The problem was
that no one – not the crew, the Back Up Team or those standing by the lock knew
the mysteries of its operation. We
ineffectively pushed buttons and pulled levers but still the lock did not
change. Eventually, a man appeared who
took control, pushed the buttons and pulled the levers in the right sequence
and in and out we went. Not only that,
the man donated £50 to our cause. This
was one of several donations we collected on the journey.
By
now darkness had descended and the Cox, me, could not easily distinguish the
water from the bank, nor was I able to see that the boat that I thought we were
trying to overtake was actually coming straight towards us. The decision to abandon our efforts to reach
Marlow, was made as we approached Hurley Lock. I suddenly realised that our approach was not
the lock but the adjoining weir. The
cry of ‘Back row! Back row!’ stopped the impending disaster and to Hurley Lock
we went.
On
the lock side, and high above us, there were shadowy figures making helpful
suggestions as to what we should do.
None of those suggestions gained consensus. Suddenly, there was a man saying ‘It’s OK,
you can use my boathouse’. Some of the Back
Up Team and non-rowers, whilst searching for access to Hurley Lock, stumbled
into this man’s garden. He was having an
al fresco dinner with friends. Without hesitation,
he left his meal, came to the lock, made his suggestion, returned to his house
to find a torch and then, like a Cornish Wrecker, waved his light. We secured the boat in a mood of despondency,
occasioned by tiredness, if not exhaustion, and the failure to reach our
objective. That was not the end of the man’s
generosity as he then offered us sleeping accommodation in his house. The man was a star and lifted our
spirits. Having had our spirits lifted,
they were then sent descending as we discovered that the restaurant at which we
were intending to eat was now shut. Not
surprising, as we were some 2.5 hours late.
Did this mean that our only source of food in Marlow was the kebab
van? Among the Gentlemen was Peter
Mapson, who is known for enjoying good food and wine. His gastronomic nose found the Marlow Bar and
Grill. Not only did its kitchen stay
open for us, it served some seriously good food. If in Marlow do visit, I recommend.
We
spent the night in the Travelodge and in the morning returned to Hurley
Lock. The Gentlemen took the first stint
to the Marlow Rowing Club. We rowed as quickly
as we could to make up the time. Despite
that, and because the boat needed attention, the day proper again started
late.
If
we thought the river had been busy and hot on the previous two days, it became
busier and hotter on day three. We were
now slipping seriously further and further against the schedule. An hour, an hour and a half, two hours. This led to discussions as to whether we could
achieve our goal, or only achieve it if we could return and row on Tuesday, or
whether we had to admit defeat and accept that the heat and the activity on the
river would beat us. Whilst no one wanted
that, the prospect was looming large.
Then
a piece of luck. One lock keeper pointed
out that at the next lock there was a portage point. We rowed
towards it among shouts from various boats who had been queuing for a considerable
time of “there’s a queue you know!” and
manhandled the boat to the other side.
That gained us half an hour. We
now believed we could, not would, achieve our objective.
The
decision was then made that the greatest chance of success lay with The Young
Blades doing most of the remaining rowing, and with The Gentlemen joining in
when a Young Blade admitted he needed a break.
That was usually confessed through gritted teeth. Whilst I, and I think, the other Gentlemen
felt that this meant we were not pulling our full weight, it was the right
call.
With
the number of miles remaining reducing steadily, we found another portage point
and again hauled the boat out and into the water. That, again, made up some lost time. From the
final changeover point, The Young Blades were rowing together with Alan as Cox. They rowed the last five miles at a cracking
pace, at some point reaching 12 miles per hour, and, eventually, finished at
the Lensbury Hotel at about 8:30pm.
Without The Young Blades we would have failed, so well done guys and thanks.
On
the question of thanks, there are three people who have only been obliquely
mentioned as ‘the Back-up Team’. That
consisted of Lin, Pauline and Lyn. I know
that they had assistance from others but they bore the brunt: getting up early, making sure that we rowers
had water, food, transport, tender loving care, and hauling increasingly tired
bodies in and out of the boat. One
measure of their efforts is that, between them, they walked some180,000 steps
during the three days. Remember, that was
done in the intense heat and whilst carrying heavy loads of water and food. Without those three we would have undoubtedly
failed – so a big THANK YOU.
Thanks
also to the Reading Rowing Club who lent us the boat and, particularly, to Des
who taught us the rudiments of rowing and repaired the boat when we had a
collision.
Thanks
to all those who have made donations. I
am uncertain as to the final amount, but it is heading to £12,000.00.
Thank you.
Finally,
would I do the same again with The Young Blades and the other Gentlemen? Despite tiredness, heat and a sore backside “bet
your sweet bippy I would”.